Subject: Reframe our negative thoughts by Rose P.
The Pitch: A "mindfulness" guide suggesting that identity is merely a construction of daily habits and that mental health is achieved by "reframing" the noise of our thoughts into more useful perspectives.
It’s Not a Delusion: Facing the War on Your Humanity
The latest "mindfulness" missive from the productivity-obsessed self-help void has arrived, and it is a masterclass in gaslighting. In this installment of the Calling Out Bullshit series, we are looking at a piece by Rose P. that suggests the path to mental health is simply "reframing" your thoughts while waking up two hours before your family to "build" an identity through repetitive tasks.
Let’s eviscerate the premise: this isn't a guide to mental health. It is a training manual for high-functioning servitude.
The "Reframing" Trap: Gaslighting as Therapy
The author suggests that the "patterns in our mind" are just "noise" and that we should "reframe" our negative thoughts to see the world more clearly.
The Bullshit: If you are a woman living in a world where your safety is a coin toss and the legal system treats your trauma like a clerical error—your "negative thoughts" aren't a cognitive distortion. They are a sonar reading.
"Reframing" in this context is just a polite word for dissociation. It asks you to look at a battlefield and tell yourself it’s a Zen garden if you just squint hard enough. This only "works" if you allow yourself to be named as the slave they want you to be. True mental health isn't the ability to paint a happy face over a crisis; it is the visceral strength to look at a predatory reality and refuse to call it anything else.
The Identity Erasure: You Are Not a To-Do List
The post claims that identity is not "found" but "built" through "what you repeatedly do."
The Bullshit: This is the ultimate colonization of the soul. It posits that you are nothing more than the sum of your habits—a collection of "skills," "discipline," and "kindness" (read: compliance). It suggests that if you aren't doing, you don't exist.
This philosophy strips away inherent human value and replaces it with a performance metric. It tells women that their identity is a DIY project they must complete by 6:00 AM. It ignores the fact that your identity—your soul, your history, your outrage—is already there. It doesn't need to be "built" through "patterns of behavior"; it needs to be defended from a world that wants to commodify it.
The "Busyness" Myth
The author reminisces about 200 emails a day, only to replace that frantic busyness with a new, "mindful" busyness: reading "books after books" and "collecting small reframes."
The Bullshit: It’s the same trap in a different font. Whether you are jumping through hoops for a boss or jumping through mental hoops for a "wellness" influencer, you are still jumping. The "world slowing down" in 2020 wasn't a gift for "self-discovery"—it was a rare moment where the noise stopped long enough for people to realize they were being hunted by a system that views their exhaustion as a feature, not a bug.
Compliance is Not a Cure
The post ends with a call to "grow together" by buying a book. It’s the perfect punchline. After telling you that your thoughts are noise and your identity is a construction project, they offer to sell you the blueprints for your own cage.
The Reality: There is a war meant to keep you from being human. It uses "wellness" language to keep you quiet, "productivity" to keep you tired, and "reframing" to ensure your compliance with our brutal overlords.
Mental health is the courage to stay awake in a world that wants you drugged on illusions of "self-improvement." It’s acknowledging that the fear you feel isn't a "maladaptive pattern"—it’s an accurate assessment of a hostile environment.
Stop reframing the bullshit. Stop building a "better" version of a slave. Start reclaiming your sovereignty.
I really love that reframing of thoughts and how they shift, and the fact that an identity based on them is fragile. That is such good food for thought. Thank you for sharing ❤️
A lot of people throughout history have echoed this philosophy, but Alan Watts is the voice I keep returning to. I love his storytelling because he didn’t just explain ideas. He made you feel them.
"Identity is rarely something we uncover. More often, it is something we build."
I like that. It's probably one of the most important mindset shifts that a person can make during their lifetime. Not every thought deserves ownership. No every feeling deserves a performance. As for consistent actions? Those definitely build up over time as they don't happen overnight. This is a really strong reminder that growth is usually less about some dramatic breakthrough but more about the repeated decision that are made quietly every day.
Calling Out Bullshit: The Gaslighting of "Growth"
Subject: Reframe our negative thoughts by Rose P.
The Pitch: A "mindfulness" guide suggesting that identity is merely a construction of daily habits and that mental health is achieved by "reframing" the noise of our thoughts into more useful perspectives.
It’s Not a Delusion: Facing the War on Your Humanity
The latest "mindfulness" missive from the productivity-obsessed self-help void has arrived, and it is a masterclass in gaslighting. In this installment of the Calling Out Bullshit series, we are looking at a piece by Rose P. that suggests the path to mental health is simply "reframing" your thoughts while waking up two hours before your family to "build" an identity through repetitive tasks.
Let’s eviscerate the premise: this isn't a guide to mental health. It is a training manual for high-functioning servitude.
The "Reframing" Trap: Gaslighting as Therapy
The author suggests that the "patterns in our mind" are just "noise" and that we should "reframe" our negative thoughts to see the world more clearly.
The Bullshit: If you are a woman living in a world where your safety is a coin toss and the legal system treats your trauma like a clerical error—your "negative thoughts" aren't a cognitive distortion. They are a sonar reading.
"Reframing" in this context is just a polite word for dissociation. It asks you to look at a battlefield and tell yourself it’s a Zen garden if you just squint hard enough. This only "works" if you allow yourself to be named as the slave they want you to be. True mental health isn't the ability to paint a happy face over a crisis; it is the visceral strength to look at a predatory reality and refuse to call it anything else.
The Identity Erasure: You Are Not a To-Do List
The post claims that identity is not "found" but "built" through "what you repeatedly do."
The Bullshit: This is the ultimate colonization of the soul. It posits that you are nothing more than the sum of your habits—a collection of "skills," "discipline," and "kindness" (read: compliance). It suggests that if you aren't doing, you don't exist.
This philosophy strips away inherent human value and replaces it with a performance metric. It tells women that their identity is a DIY project they must complete by 6:00 AM. It ignores the fact that your identity—your soul, your history, your outrage—is already there. It doesn't need to be "built" through "patterns of behavior"; it needs to be defended from a world that wants to commodify it.
The "Busyness" Myth
The author reminisces about 200 emails a day, only to replace that frantic busyness with a new, "mindful" busyness: reading "books after books" and "collecting small reframes."
The Bullshit: It’s the same trap in a different font. Whether you are jumping through hoops for a boss or jumping through mental hoops for a "wellness" influencer, you are still jumping. The "world slowing down" in 2020 wasn't a gift for "self-discovery"—it was a rare moment where the noise stopped long enough for people to realize they were being hunted by a system that views their exhaustion as a feature, not a bug.
Compliance is Not a Cure
The post ends with a call to "grow together" by buying a book. It’s the perfect punchline. After telling you that your thoughts are noise and your identity is a construction project, they offer to sell you the blueprints for your own cage.
The Reality: There is a war meant to keep you from being human. It uses "wellness" language to keep you quiet, "productivity" to keep you tired, and "reframing" to ensure your compliance with our brutal overlords.
Mental health is the courage to stay awake in a world that wants you drugged on illusions of "self-improvement." It’s acknowledging that the fear you feel isn't a "maladaptive pattern"—it’s an accurate assessment of a hostile environment.
Stop reframing the bullshit. Stop building a "better" version of a slave. Start reclaiming your sovereignty.
Thank you for sharing, Jodi! This advice is very helpful.
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I really love that reframing of thoughts and how they shift, and the fact that an identity based on them is fragile. That is such good food for thought. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Being alone with your own thoughts is not talked about enough - it reveals so much ... very nice piece Rose
Love that golden morning time! ✨
A lot of people throughout history have echoed this philosophy, but Alan Watts is the voice I keep returning to. I love his storytelling because he didn’t just explain ideas. He made you feel them.
"Identity is rarely something we uncover. More often, it is something we build."
I like that. It's probably one of the most important mindset shifts that a person can make during their lifetime. Not every thought deserves ownership. No every feeling deserves a performance. As for consistent actions? Those definitely build up over time as they don't happen overnight. This is a really strong reminder that growth is usually less about some dramatic breakthrough but more about the repeated decision that are made quietly every day.
Great voice and style — subscribed. If you like what I’m doing, I’d appreciate a subscription back.